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Don’t Wait

Don’t wait for permission from others to do the right thing.

Don’t wait for others to do the right thing.

Don’t wait to do the right thing.

Do the right thing.

Don’t wait for others to see the right thing has been done.

Don’t wait for others to thank you for doing the right thing.

Don’t wait for others to join you in doing the next right thing.

Do the next right thing.

Always do the right thing.

45

Here, on the occasion of my 45th birthday, are forty-five things I know.

  1. Human |dnzis|referrer|saaen
    significance is largely predicated by our inability to fully grasp how insignificant we are.
  2. Most of what drives us can be summed up in two words — Me too.
  3. There is no such thing as nothing. There are only things we can’t see.
  4. Time is a finite resource. Its finite nature is that which connects us with the rest of existence.
  5. How we spend our time here and now matters only here and now to that which is here and now.
  6. Care.
  7. Don’t worry. Do. If nothing can be done, don’t worry.
  8. Saying no is saying yes to other things.
  9. “You only need one good reason to commit to an idea, not four hundred. But if you have four hundred reasons to say yes and one reason to say no, the answer is probably no.” – Twyla Tharp in The Creative Habit
  10. Abundance may seem more than enough but it is only so when we are not doing enough with our abundance.
  11. Our approximation of others is built upon our approximation of self.
  12. Community requires sidewalks.
  13. The best ideas are timeless.
  14. No idea is truly original.
  15. Never, ever, ever, ever be without the tools to capture ideas.
  16. Ideas need us as much as we need them.
  17. Paper is always on.
  18. There is a dangerous place between who we really are and who others expect us to be.
  19. Don’t waste your CPU on things you are not committed to do.
  20. Convenience can be a double-edged sword because inconvenience can be such a very good motivator.
  21. Meaning is the space between the words.
  22. Paper is never passive.
  23. Take the time to appreciate the simple things that improve our lives in ways both measurable and immeasurable.
  24. A good pen is a promise of love to an empty page.
  25. If the best tool is the one that is with you, always make sure to carry the best tools you can afford.
  26. Nothing makes me laugh more spontaneously and uncontrollably as good food.
  27. Prince’s song Purple Rain is a near measure for measure, um… homage to Faithfully by Journey. I would link to a video of Purple Rain but Prince is famous for getting most videos of him performing removed in quick order from You Tube. But, hey, listen to the Journey song and sing the lyrics to Purple Rain and you will find it is THE EXACT SAME SONG.
  28. Great artists steal.
  29. Those things we think are complicated are likely far more simple than we think they are.
  30. Those things we think are simple are likely far more complex than we can possibly understand.
  31. We spend a good part of our lives attempting to re-learn the things that we have un-learned since childhood.
  32. The most important things we learn about life we learn before kindergarten (a reference to this great book here).
  33. What we often seek most is substance in a world of surface.
  34. “The really important kind of freedom involves attention, and awareness, and discipline, and effort, and being able truly to care about other people and to sacrifice for them, over and over, in myriad petty little unsexy ways, every day.” – David Foster Wallace
  35. If you sense a theme you are probably right.
  36. If you must love your neighbor as yourself then the first step and the hardest step is to love yourself.
  37. Right now is already a moment ago.
  38. A journey of a thousand miles may begin with one step but takes place in-between the spaces of the tens of thousands that follow.
  39. Truth requires courage.
  40. “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter” – Martin Luther King Junior
  41. Many of our most beloved children’s songs use the same melody (ABC, Baa Baa Black Sheep, Twinkle Twinkle Little Star).
  42. It’s not Van Halen without “Diamond” David Lee Roth. Any other incarnation we accept of the same name is, in fact, a pale substitute of the real thing and devalues the higher quality original in the same way that we call all bargain store brand tissue paper Kleenex.
  43. I can guess any woman’s age within three years. (Yes, I have a secret. Yes, it is the same one that the carnies use. No, I’m not going to tell you.)
  44. Find your limits. Find your loves. Respect each deeply.
  45. I’m far more comfortable with and interested in the things I don’t know.

How To Cure Cancer

Care.
Yep. That’s it. That’s the cure. If you want it in detail, read the rest….
My wife, Bethany Gladhill, and I faced a major scare over the weekend. She had all the signs and symptoms of Inflammatory |kaeba|referrer|kkytr
Breast Cancer
. Of all of the forms of breast cancer, it is one of the most deadly, that takes far too many (and, any is too many) way too young.
Luckily, for us, her biopsy came back negative. Turned out to be a ruptured cyst (which has identical symptoms and detection procedures). Unfortunately, most do not.
Look, we can send robots to Mars and upgrade their software from earth in minutes. We can pour trillions into elections only to produce the same outcomes we have had for 200 years. Or…
We could be taking the collective wealth and knowledge of our society and saving the lives of millions and those that love them by ensuring that no one has to face cancer ever again. No, it is not as sexy as robots on Mars and not as entertaining as watching Washington mudslinging and gridlock but… It matters.
Start. Today.
Not by buying more crap you don’t need (even the pink crap). Not by throwing a dollar into a cup and calling the job done.
As a species , we have proven that there is nothing we can’t do if we set out to do so. We have cured the incurable countless times before. I fervently believe that, if we can send robots to Mars and fix elections with money, we can cure cancer. All it takes is the same thing it always has for every one of those challenges…
Care.
But, care scales. In order to tackle the big problems the more people who do it the more likely it is to succeed.
Start by educating yourself and those around you. Start by sitting in empathy and practicing mindful and compassionate listening to those who have been there (trust me, we all know someone). Then, continue by raising awareness and supporting in any way possible (money, time, attention, etc.) those organizations who are active on the front lines of this fight.
Because, what got robots to Mars, put men on the Moon, ends famine and war, and, yes, even elects presidents, is the power of that one simple, yet powerful, word set into action and collectivized.
It even is the secret to curing cancer.

Remainders 07.19.2012

I will say that one thing I have missed about Twitter so far is the ability to quickly and succinctly share links to things I have found useful or otherwise enjoyed. I used to do that regularly, pre-Twitter, on patrickrhone.com in a regular feature I called “Remainders”. It would seem that there is no better time to start that back up again and to share these things with you.

Here, in no particular order, are some things I have really been enjoying lately…

  • Caesura Letters — My friend James Shelly’s smart, philosophical, mindful subscription newsletter. Fantastic writing, deep thought, and enlightenment. It makes me excited to open my inbox each day and makes me smarter with each one. Seriously. Use the link before for 40% off (only $3.99 a month).

  • Seven Summits by Dick Bass, Frank Wells, Rick Ridgeway — A wonderful book, given to me by a friend, about two guys who set out to be the first people to climb the highest summit on every continent in the world. They were both in their fifties, untrained, unprepared, and outmatched for the task. Yet, despite all of it, they had a dream and they chased it. It’s quite compelling and in line with some research I have been doing into the idea that accomplishment can become an addiction.

  • Nike+ Running for iPhone on the iTunes App Store — I’ve been using this to track my runs and have found it quite fun. It does a good job of giving me just enough of what I need and nothing I don’t. Plus, it has Path integration and I enjoy the fact I can share my runs there and people can comment on them or cheer me on.

  • Path — Speaking of which, this is where I have been sharing and having conversations while taking a sabbatical from Twitter. I love, love, love, this app. It feels so much more comfortable to me. I wish more of my friends were on it but I’m happy with the way I get to engage with the ones that are.

Twalden

Henry David Thoreau wished to separate himself from community and society and live, for a time, alone. Not because he did not enjoy, appreciate, or benefit from his participation in it. He did so because he knew the only way to best evaluate his place within it was to live and observe it from the outside. So he built a small cabin in the woods, a brief walking distance from town, on a small pond called Walden. The land on which it was built was actually owned by his friend and contemporary Ralph Waldo Emerson. I consider both literary and intellectual heroes of mine.
It is through this lens that I have been putting a lot of (read: way too much) thought into Twitter, and my place within it, lately. For months and, perhaps, years now something about it has not felt right with me about it. I’m beginning to understand that it is not just one thing but many, many, things that have led me to feel this unease. Here are some of the few I have identified.

“What are you doing?” (A Brief History)

From the beginning, Twitter was a place to post a personal status update and nothing more. It was modeled on Jack Dorsey’s long time fascination with the way New York City taxi cab services transmitted their status and location (Here is a fascinating interview about this early history). The question asked by Twitter, at the top of the post text field was, “What are you doing?”. This was great for a while and, in the early days of Twitter, this is how most people used the service. Seeing a tweet that was simply “@ lunch” or “Coding” was commonplace and such simple updates were the majority.
As more users poured into the service and big companies, activists, governments, and more began to use it, the way this new majority used the service began to morph. It became a place to communicate, organize, and report — thanks in no small way to replies and hashtags, both of which were community created and then later adopted as features by Twitter. In this new usage, revolutions were supported, stars were made, news was broken. There was power in the new communication paradigm that this new usage and these new features allowed. It was through this new use case for the service that Twitter also likely began to see the power and possible business model for the service. As such, they changed the question…

Ask A Different Question, Get A Different Answer

In November of 2009, they changed the question to “What’s Happening”, thus, the role the company expected users of the service to play. It was arguably their first not-so-subtle communication of intent. They no longer cared to ask about you, or what you were doing. They wanted you to take the role of reporter. No longer a participant, but a spectator. And, let’s be honest, the fact that you are having lunch is important to a very small few and likely only you. The concert, or story, or brand, or movie, or revolution, or whatever else is “happening” is important to many.
More to the point, they can build a business around making certain brands, stories, movies, concerts, etc. seem more important than others. They can sell these “promoted” topics as a form of advertising. They can insert them into your timeline. They can give them more to say than they give you. If you want to know “What’s happening?”, just ask them and they will be more than happy to tell you. In fact, they would prefer it.

Who am I? Why am I here?

The header above is a quote by Vice Admiral James Stockdale from the 1992 Vice Presidential Debate. He had been picked as Ross Perot’s running mate just a week before appearing. He was a decorated war veteran, former POW, a true American hero. Yet, most people watching the debate had no idea who he was. He was hoping that by leading with these questions, he would have a chance to tell them. Instead, he was widely ridiculed. Why? Because no one really cared…

It was terribly frustrating because I remember I started with, “Who am I? Why am I here?” and I never got back to that because there was never an opportunity for me to explain my life to people. It was so different from Quayle and Gore. The four years in solitary confinement in Vietnam, seven-and-a-half years in prisons, drop the first bomb that started the … American bombing raid in the North Vietnam. We blew the oil storage tanks of them off the map. And I never—I couldn’t approach—I don’t say it just to brag, but, I mean, my sensitivities are completely different.

I, too, would like to get back to that. My sensitivities seem completely different from what I see on Twitter today.

What am I doing?

Whenever I look at the “Trends” or the popular hashtags, an aggregate of millions of users combined with businesses that have paid for those spots, I don’t see anything I am even remotely interested in there. I don’t care about what they are telling me is happening. My timeline is filled with lots of interesting things to read or think about, but at the cost of my own ability and time to do so. Twitter is rattling sabers that indicate they are going to restrict the ability of third-party clients to filter and access the service in ways that I find sane and sustainable.
Ultimately, I don’t know if what Twitter has become is for me, or the people I care about, or the conversations I wish to have. The things I want to know are “happening” — like good news about a friend’s success, or bad news about their relationship, or even just the fact they are eating a sandwich and the conversation around such — I wish to have at length and without distraction. Such conversations remain best when done directly, and there are plenty of existing and better communication methods for that.
So, therefore, I must take my own sabbatical from it so I can decide if there remains a place for me there and, if so, where and why.

Minimal Mac: What We Believe In

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As we approach the three year anniversary of my more popular website, Minimal Mac, I thought it would be a good idea to put together a book of my best writing on the site to date. The goal being three fold:

  • For those who have been reading for a while, it is an archive of the best stuff in one professionally produced package.
  • For those new to the site it is an easy way to get up-to-speed on what you have missed.
  • For me, it is a way to gather and archive what I feel is my best work on Minimal Mac. Should some random meteor or freak zombie invasion take out Tumblr, well, here is the stuff I really care about.

Thus, Minimal Mac: What We Believe In was born.

Now, I wish to be very clear about what this is. Every single item in this book exists on Minimal Mac as it stands — right now — for free. I have simply done the hard work for you; which is going through nearly 2000 updates and compiling the best posts, essays, and quotes into a couple of hundred pages. I then had these professionally edited and the cover, layout, and design done to make it an attractive and easy to read book.

Available now in ePub for Apple iBooks & .mobi for Amazon Kindle The cost is only $5. About the cost of a decent sandwich. Buying it not only gets you a copy of the book in both versions but also helps to support the work I do here. 

Get it here…

Minimal Mac: What We Believe In


The Minimal Mac book is not available in any stores (iBookstore or Amazon). This is the only place you can get it. So get it now.

Of course, my last two books — Keeping It Straight & enough — are still available as well.

Next Step: Turning Pro

As I said in my review of the book, Turning Pro is an essential message for anyone ready to take the next step. Those who are currently living an amateur life or toiling away in a shadow career and are on the verge of staking everything they have, doing the work, and devoting it all to their passions and the dreams.

Is this you?

Are you a writer but working in a cubicle job to pay the bills? Are you an artist but working in tech support because you don’t think your work will sell? Are you looking to be your own boss instead of being bossed around?

Are you ready to do the work? Work that is purposeful and authentic? Work that is true to who you are and the offerings you wish to make to this world?

Then you need this book.

I have two copies to give away to the people that need it most. To find them, I have assembled a panel — Myself (Professional Author and Essayist), Shawn Blanc (Professional Writer and Technology Pundit), and Myke Hurley (Professional Podcast Producer). We all know what it takes to turn pro and what the life before is like. We all know what it takes to fight the resistance and fear and to take that next step.

Here is how we will do this:

  • Pros have a plan and we want to hear yours. Send an email via this link and explain where you are in your work life right now and how you plan on Turning Pro.

  • Emails will be accepted until one week from today (June 20th, 2012 — June 27, 2012). Any coming past this date will be automatically deleted.

  • The panel will review those entries and notify both winners via email reply to their entry by July 1st, 2012. In this reply I will request shipping information for the book and will send it out that week.

OK. Got it? Do you need this? Are you ready for it? Let me know.



Book Review: Turning Pro

Turning Pro Book

Turning Pro is the new book by Steven Pressfield, author of War of Art and Do The Work. In fact, I would argue that together, read in order, the three make a cohesive whole. Turning Pro is an essential followup to those previous works and answers any question of “Now what?” the first two books may have left.

That “now what?” is this: The time for amateur hour is over. You have made excuses for too long. It is now time to change. Time to pull the pin and release yourself from the train of other people’s expectations and desires. Time to ride the rails that only you can put down in front of you. Time to go pro.
I counted those earlier works among my favorites and essential to artists and creatives who wanted to break past the fear, self-doubt, and blocks we face daily to get to the hard work of doing.
For a writer like myself, that means having a routine and carving out space and time that is sacred for the task. Write every day. Because the muse only shows up for those that are at the same time and place, every day. That, anything else is not the work. Anything else is a hobby.
Even though I subscribed to many of the principles set forth already, even though I am a published author, even though I took much of what was laid out in his first two books to practice, this book was a wake up call for me.
If you are an artist or creator of any stripe, you need this book. If you are one who is stuck in a shadow career working on someone else’s job, you need this book. And, if you are a professional who thinks you have it all figured out, you really need this book.
Even more so, you need to give this book to anyone you know who you feel is in any of those places. I was only a quarter of the way in before I came up with a short list of people who I knew would benefit from it greatly (and sent it to them as a gift). Then, even after I had already purchased it and started to dig in, I received several emails from other trusted friends of mine telling me they were only part way through but could not wait to tell me to go and get it. Therefore, do yourself a favor and get the paperback. This is one to highlight, mark up the margins, and pass around.